Tentatively Entitled Panopticon

I'm working on a short story tentatively entitled "Panopticon". During a slow day at work last week I decided to brush up on my knowledge of Utilitarianism and naturally found myself researching Jeremy Bentham, a leading proponent of the philosophy. While roaming and reading, I came across a diagram and description of his invention, the Panopticon. A Panopticon is a prison that holds the prisoners in the center and guards on the outside. It is designed to permit observers to look inward without being detected. In other words it provides what architect, Silke Berit Lang, calls "sentiment of an invisible omniscience". I scribbled down some key attributes of the structure and drew disturbing connections to society on a small piece of paper I have been carrying around with me since. This strange creation struck me. Fascinated and disturbed me. I can't actually get it out of my head. Needing the threat of an invisible watchman (sorry for the term since denotes sex but it fit) to force us into doing good out of fear of punishment-not because it is our choice is unsettling. You know the discussion of an ultimate power must be discussed. The thought that society is more interested in enforcing rules and norms than explaining and convincing people and really, allowing for individuality over conformity bothers me. Some questions I am contemplating: Is morality objective? Can a person really be a moral agent if acting for motivations other than to be a good person? (I think I need to go back and read my Kant).

A Panopticon serves as an interesting case study and a beautiful platform for a dystopian satire. I have had the main concept and various interweaving themes of great personal interest floating around my head, working towards becoming a cohesive story for about a half year now.

It all began while waiting at the bus depot downtown for the number 28 to campus last winter. I sat there watching people and particularly doors. There will be great focus on doors in my story. Sliding tracks and doorknobs. Pay close attention to the details--I promise you I've spent more time considering doors than is probably considered acceptable. I am particularly preoccupied with the simplicity in function and dutiful fulfillment of purpose that doors accomplish. And what happens if they no longer satisfy their ready-to-hand (reference to Heidegger) conformist role? The protagonist in my story will experience a present-at-hand disruption.

A bus stop may be where I realized that my ideas were gathering together with exciting rapidity and important cohesion but really, this story started years ago in airports. Observing my fellow travelers, disconnectedly watching people pass by--so many people with different motivations, talents and fears--so many involved and encompassing lives people were living inside their heads. It is so easy for me to forget there are other narratives and eyes things are being viewed from other than my own-until I find myself confronted with it at the airport. Waiting at a terminal it is an inescapable reality.

What all this means isn't quite clear to me. But something has been building up and I am excited to release my thoughts and more importantly my questions, fears and warnings onto paper.

As a side note, character development is something I'm working on as I haven't written a fictional account since I was a third grader and wrote (and illustrated!) a story about Germy, the friendly bacteria, and her boyfriend, Germaine. I have found this list of character questions extremely helpful if you need a little help too:

Pajama Obstacle Course.

The weekends I work dispatch at our local newspaper, my shifts begin before the sun rises—even in the summer. Allowing my hair to air dry as I slept, a comforting habit from childhood, I awoke with a disheveled half swept up style rugged from a night of unsettled tossing about. After working out that my alarm belonged in the world of the droning fan filling the dark room and not to whatever role my unconscious had assigned it, in my quickly fleeting dream state I tumbled out of bed. And stumbled into my hallway—right into my vacuum cleaner. You see, I like to devise early morning death traps for myself to keep nimble. One of my longtime personal favourites being the running shoes in the doorway obstacle course. Ah, how many memories and bruises can be attributed to this game of agility.

I took a large silver can of hairspray from the bathroom counter. Applying a mist over the top of my head, I made a weak effort to smooth the voluminous tousled birds nest into place. Polished wasn’t the look I was after but durability. Sometimes when I wake up and my bangs are sticking straight up, I like to snap a photo of me looking like a cockatoo and send it to random people in my phonebook to say good morning. I think that's a rather pleasant way to wake.

Today I apparently wanted to share my mess of a self with a wider audience. I wore my pajama top to work under a cardigan. I don't think anyone noticed--it looks like a decorative floral tank top. But I knew. And I am an avid protester of anything pajama or too lounge-like in public. When I went to university, I would find myself embarrassed by my fellow schlubs wearing sweat and yoga pants to class. Particularly as I would notice tour groups of potential future students and their parents on campus. I always thought we should have a policy restricting this--with the motto: your bedroom does not extend to the classroom. And signs posted on the back of bathroom stalls: Look like a professional that you are trying to mold yourself into. You see, I've actually thought this through. The administration could publish a schedule of days with tours each semester (with the option to read it online in an effort to go green as well) and send friendly but forceful reminder emails the night before. Any violators would be forced into some session on how to dress like a professional taught by the business school. So it seems strange that I would even step outside my door in half a pajama set. It can only be attributed to my failure as a morning person.

So tomorrow as I zombie-like strut to my taxi cab with sleep in my eyes, I will be sure that I am wearing proper clothing. I may not be one but I do have to coexist with these morning people

Stories are on the way!

I haven't been posting regularly. It isn't that I haven't been writing but sometimes I can spend days trying to perfect something before I submit it. I also like to write while I walk around and it can be difficult to decipher what I've scribbled all over margins and over typed words. I have heard that procrastination is often a side effect of seeking perfection. It can also be a show of laziness but that isn't so (in this case).

I've also been struggling with being overindulgent in finding joy in the detailing of events in my life. That's worded strangely but at this point I just want to get something down. It is good to be so amused by one's own life but I wonder if others will share the same experience enjoying my stories or whether they find it narcissistic. I suppose if you do, please stop reading. If you like it, keep on. This weekend I will be quite busy but I promise stories of lighting friends on fire, running away from the bouquet toss, a well-thought out piece of dating advice and a detailed account of Doug, known to my friends as "that neighbor".

:) x 10

Roadtrip with the boys several summers ago to Seattle for a Mariners's game.
(Shane's applying lip gloss to a snoring Stephen).

Paul, Shane, me & Stephen in the backseat.
We look young.

My bags are finally packed and my ticket confirmation is printed! I used bringing T3 vino from our local Townshend Winery for a gift as an excuse to check luggage and bring more shoes along. This evening I am leaving Spokane, WA, for Davis, CA, where I'm meeting up with two of my favourite people, Stephen and Shane! We met several years ago at Gonzaga University, where we worked in the summers and were students during the academic years. We used to talk and laugh for hours when we were together and have managed to stay close with long phone calls and getting together whenever we can. We'll be meeting and staying with Shane's family--and I am beyond excited about this. I've heard stories about them and I'm always really interested to see who shaped my best friends into who they are. Shane has been torturing his mother this past week trying to convince her she hasn't made it clear we can stay with them and that we'll probably book a hotel--I can hear the amusement in his voice and her protesting in the background. :) This long weekend will reunite the three of us together for the first time since we were undergraduates--wow. I'm both incredibly excited and quite sad. The reason for our quick trip down there is Shane will be deployed (I have a habit of saying deported for some unknown reason) to serve in Afghanistan for a year in August. I can't wait to see the boys!

Some Inspiration.

Womens' magazines. The glossy pages are armed with insider tips and advice on how to look prettier, dress more fashionably and keep your man satisfied. They prey on our weaknesses, exploiting insecurities with colourful photo shoots but sometimes they succeed in providing affirmation of our greatness and some inspiration. The following article ran in the March 2010 issue of Glamour and is one I keep close at hand. And it applies to both sexes, although the audience it is being written for is clearly women.

“The Most Important 433 Words to Read This Month”

No matter how sophisticated and grown-up we become, everyone has her insecure days. In this excerpt from her new book, Eve Ensler celebrates the true power of a woman. Read it and send on to a girlfriend you love.

Dear Emotional Creature:

I believe in you. I believe in your authenticity, your uniqueness, your intensity, your wildness. I love the way you dye your hair purple, or hike up your short skirt, or blare your music while you lip-synch every single memorized lyric. I love your restlessness and your hunger. You possess the energy that, if unleashed, could transform, inspire and heal the world.

Everyone seems to have a certain way they want you to be--your mother, father, teaches, religious leaders, politicians, boyfriends, fashion gurus, celebrities, girlfriends. In reporting my new book, I learned a very disturbing statistic: 74% of young women say they are under pressure to please everyone.

I have done a lot of thinking about what it means to please; to be the wish or will of somebody other than yourself. To please the fashion setters, we starve ourselves. To please the men, we push ourselves when we aren't ready. To please our parents, we become insane overachievers. If you are trying to please, how do you take responsibility for your own needs? How do you even know what your own needs are? The act of pleasing makes everything murky. We lose track of ourselves. We stop uttering declaratory sentences. We stop directing our lives. We forget what we know. We make everything OK rather than real.

I have had the good fortune to travel around the world. Everywhere I meet teenage girls and women giggling, laughing as they walk country roads or hang out on city streets. Electric girls, I see how their lives get hijacked, how their opinions and desires get denied and undone. So many of the women I have met are still struggling late into their lives to know their way.

Instead of trying to please, this is a challenge to provoke, to dare, to satisfy your own imagination and appetite. To take responsibility for who you are, to engage. Listen to the voice inside you that might want something different. It's a call to your original self, to move at your own speed, to walk with your step, to wear your color.

When I was your age, I didn't know how to live as an emotional creature. I felt like an alien. I still do a lot of the time. I am older now. I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be OK with being different, with being this alive, this intense. I just don't want you to have to wait that long.

Love,
Eve Ensler

From Eve Ensler’s new book “I Am an Emotional Creature: The Secret Life of Girls Around the World”

Homemade Mozzarella with Basil from the Garden!

Panic mode when the cheese temperature was rapidly rising.

Scooping and draining.

Separating the curds from the whey.

Forming the curds into a ball.

It's starting to have a stretchy consistency!

Kneading the cheese curds.

Beautiful spread with vegetables fresh from the garden!

Our delicious spread.

And Puss joined us for a lovely dinner.

I am not known for my culinary skills in a desirable way. Rather my friends have been treated to and my family served an array of ambitious attempts, where my menu consisted of burnt risotto, doughy gnocchi, teeth-chipping gingerbread cookies and lastly, dolmathes where the soggy grape leaves hung raggedly around uncooked rice. Despite my usual inedible outcomes I find the intricate process of cooking exciting and fulfilling. Preparing and sharing dishes enables me to host memorable soirees where the food may be more scoffed at than savored but it serves as the catalyst for bringing us all together for hours of conversation and laughter.

To complement my habitually disastrous results, I have a penchant for choosing difficult recipes showcased by my perusing Martha Stewart and elitist foodie blogs. That was part of the appeal when The Spokesman-Review (where I happen to be employed) published an article on cheesemaking: http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2010/jun/09/moz-zarella-magic/ I wasn't even aware this was something that could be done in single batches at home. It just seems like the sort of thing that requires a vat, wooden spoons as tall as I am and stretching machines in a large temperature controlled warehouse. As it turns out, the most difficult part of our making mozzarella was finding and working with the ingredients. Citric Acid I'm sure will be a useful addition to the kitchen cupboard and converting Rennet tablets into liquid involved a strange almost ritualistic doubling of the ingredients to throw out half. It didn't make any sense but we were afraid to disturb the precise directions.

As always in trying to follow a recipe in an exact matter, things went awry. The temperature rose too quickly and kept going, there didn't seem to be enough curds in our whey and the kneaded cheese had more of a lumpy texture than stretchy taffy consistency. The article we frequently referred back to for assurance is full of dire warnings of failure. It seems almost expected as the cheese experts focus their advice on encouragement to keep practicing until a successful batch is made.

We were prepared to start our second batch as we iced and refrigerated the cheese. But when it was sliced and prepared as part of a beautiful spread, we anxiously tasted the mozzarella and it was fresh and creamy and contributed to a delicious dinner! Our feast included fresh lettuce and basil from Julia's plentiful garden and was arranged beside ripe tomatoes and flavourful salami with olive oil and balsamic vinegar drizzled over.

It was a challenging recipe that ended successfully. It was a lovely dinner and it was a beautiful summer day enjoying Chardonnay on the deck with Julia as we caught up. It was a very leisurely and delightful time as we talked and watched the kids play on the assembled lumber of a dearly loved fort in the beginning stages.

Do you have any recipes that you are particularly proud of? How about any kitchen disaster stories?

-ako

10 Highlights from Last Week.

Some photos celebrating Fathers' Day and Jeffer's birthday:

Opening Night-My family LOVES baseball!Waiting for the gates to open.My gma and her cute hat.My gparents are too adorable.Showing off their snacks.

Sharing beer and snacks with my family at a local baseball game for fathers' day.
Firework show after the game.

Jeffer's 29th birthday celebration.I'm an excellent photographer.

Dance party at the drag show.Glasses and pints.

This morning was rough. It was Monday after enjoying two days of freedom and there was a mini-breakdown aversion as the day progressed--Thank goodness for good friends close and far away to validate my emotions as rational. I am finding more and more that with my intelligent girlies we are having to assure one another that even if it isn't logical for us to be feeling a certain way, it isn't any less important, necessary or warranted to have an emotional reaction to events in our lives. So I really appreciate that from today. This has me thinking of last week as it was full of many things I am so thankful to have experienced. What I found after looking over my list is most of them are focused on sharing something with a loved one--my most precious times occur with my relationships.

1. Treating my gparents to a baseball game to celebrate Fathers' Day early this year. It was opening night for the Spokane Indians! We gorged on kettle corn, peanuts, beer and oohed and awwed over the fireworks show and my gma and I appreciated the handsome talent on the other team (we were sitting by their dugout in left field).
2. Celebrating Jeffer's last birthday be he's old (29)! We've been putting up with each other's shit for many years now and I love him.
   
3. An unexpected and unlikely friend at work (which brings to mind that old strategic saying from political science "the enemy of my enemy is my friend". Perhaps a bit conniving and dramatic but when you find yourself wanting to "smash someone's face into a jelly"....
   
4. Live music! Cristie and I caught shows at the Big Sleaze (The Spill Canvas) and The Mixx (local younguns but talented and could quote funny movies like none other)...and then of course karaoke at Monterey Cafe as Nathan and I took it upon ourselves to be backup singers for the whole bar and then did a wicked rendition of Avril's "Girlfriend" ;)
   
5. An answer to a question that has been plaguing our group for months regarding our favourite local bartender. ;)
6. Homemade ice cream sundaes (we're talking the works) with friends while we watched several episodes of Strangers with Candy.
7. Some great runs I got in down by the water. I truly get a different perspective of this city and appreciation of it's beauty being seated in the northwest when I go running.
8. Friends from GU and study abroad organizing a reunion in San Francisco for NYE!!
   
9. Buying my plane ticket to go see two of my favouritest people in the world next month-Stephen and Shane! A long overdue reunion of the three of us - :) x 10
   
10. The rainy weather as of late so I can wear long cardigans, chunky scarves and boots with my summer dresses as I read the fall fashion previews that have hit my newstand magazines..

What are some highlights from your week? :)

Summer 2010 To Do List.

The colours and activities in these photographs illustrate summer fun to me.

Saturday To Do List

• Work (3-11 am)
• Watch a movie
  
• Clean apartment
• Respond to emails
• Post blog
  
• Paint stools (?)
• Go for a run
• In bed early

This is my actual to do list for June 12, 2010. I am a list maker. Below I've compiled my to do list for this summer that I will attempt to complete by the first day of fall, September 22nd. If you have anything super fun or frivolous to add or you wanta join in on something, lemme know!

Summer 2010 Fun To Do List:

1. Dress Swank and Eat Out At One of Spokane's "Finer" Dining Establishments. Drinking fine champagne...or whatever they have (!) and hang out at a smaller casino on Division (Ace's?)...Update: DONE! We chose Red Lobster and Ace's but maybe we should do this again at a fast food restaurant. I think the humour was lost on us. :)
2. Mad Hatter Tea Party. An event filled with fun and whimsy. I have been working on a mismatched collection of dainty tea cups. I'm thinking dressed up to the extreme with tulle skirts and heels/oxfords and guys in suit separates with whimsical accessories. Avant garde makeup with a top hat balanced atop messy hair. Floral cloth napkins to join brightly coloured homemade cupcakes and tasty scones. I need a pocket watch.
3. Indoor Fort. On a rainy day build a fort of sheets and pillows and watch movies. Enjoy favourite childhood foods...mac and cheese (more like top ramen for me), ice cream, etc.
4. Golf Lesson. Nothing too offbeat about this one. I just want to see if I like drinking beer midday, driving golf carts around and competing with friends. I'm thinking I will.
5. Camping Trip. Swimming in the lake, lying out in the sun, making smores over the campfire, staying up late, talking, playing cards and drinking, sleeping in a tent and waking up to the crows.
6. Golden Girls Marathon. Mimosas, face masks and cheesecake with Sophia, Dorothy, Blanche & Rose.
7. Early Morning Cartoons. Netflix is amazing. Thanks to it we can make pancakes (or maybe just eat cereal) and watch my favourite Rocky & Bullwinkle early one morning.
8. Interior Renovations. Sanding, painting and reupholstering chairs, shelves and sitting bench.
9. Baseball Game. A few beers and hotdogs with the works with the gparents for Father's Day at an Indian's game. DONE! Kettle corn and beer w/my amazing gparents--love them!
10. Reunion with Old Friends. Getting together with two friends from college. We haven't all been together in years. So, so excited. We'll be in Davis, CA, home of the Toad Tunnel, riding bicycles and the Kolding family.
11. Outdoor Movie. At The Shop with blankets, candy and pop.
12. Outdoor Concert. DONE-CDA Park Summer Concert Series w/Dr. Mac :), Michael Franti and Spearhead at the music festival in Sandpoint.
13. See Fireworks. In Riverfront Park for the 4th of July. Luckily working on this holiday isn't too bad as festivities are at night and the city puts on a good show. DONE at Avista Stadium--opening night for the Spokane Indians and watching them downtown and playing with them at the bbq on the deck for the Fourth of July. :)
14. County Fair. Scary rides haphazardly put together, really bad but so tasty food and people watching galore.
15. Pub Crawl. Old basic never gets old. Maybe we'll make puffy paint shirts and have some sort of theme. Maybe we'll just tipsily walk from bar to bar.
16. Chocolate Tasting. At the Chocolate Apothecary in the Flour Mill. Brilliant business idea.
17. Pig Out in the Park. Seriously this time. Have to eat at at least three places this year. (I've only ever managed two max).
18. Rollerskating. Junior high jams and couple skating. Yessssss. (Although it does make me feel old, they don't even have the hot jam from when I was in jr. high--Ginuwine's "My Pony").
19. Bowling. Knee-high striped socks and trying not to embarrass myself (it would be a first)!
20. Day at Wonderland. Go Carts, Laser Tag, Mini Golf & Batting Cages. Perfect day?
21. Crafts. Make an apron and cloth napkins. No idea how to sew but I've got a machine and I am woman, hear me roar!
22. Get through my Summer Reading List. I'll post the books I've been meaning to read for ages and strong suggestions by friends later.
23. Amusement/Water Park. I've always wanted to know how much they'll let you drink before cutting you off so you don't drown when you float the lazy river.
24. Tandem Bike. Silly and certain to end in disaster. Fantastic.
25. Fake an Awkward First Date. Brad has spoken for this one. (and break up!)
26. College BBQ. With Flip Cup (Follow up to the BroBBQ from summer 2009).
27. Photo Scavenger Hunt Around Town. Break into teams. (Targets, activities and rules will be posted later).
28. Tourist for a Day in Own City. See Spokane in a new light. Snocones, gondola ride, ferris wheel and carousel down at the park, read the local paper and eat local fare. Document it all.
29. Fondue Night. (Game Rules and consequences posted later). (Sorta done-went to the Melting Pot) but do at place.
30. Family Game Night with Boardgames (Wii Sports & Rockband do not qualify).
31. Collaborative Dinner. Host dinner and have everyone make something together (at the party--no pre-made!)
32. Write (and Send) a Letter. The second part is the hardest for to me to follow through with. Do it on pretty stationary.
33. Buy a Keytar. Learn How to Play the Keytar.
34. Start a Band. This is first step. Second step is buy a parrot who thinks he's a duck and name him Guadalupe but Guade for short. Third step is to learn an instrument. Don't forget to burn a cd and do a photoshoot. :)
35. Start Learning Some Key Vocab in a Foreign Language. Not sure which one....
36. Maybe Take a Creative Writing Class at the Falls.
37. Write a short story. Send it in to publisher.
38. Get a Plant. Keep the Plant Alive.
39. Fly a Kite and Have a Picnic. Get a basket and checkered blanket. Juice box sangrias are also a good idea.
40. Tie-Die Shirts. They're back in fashion and awesome.
41. Make Mozzarella Cheese. It can be made at home--who knew?? Julia and I did this and it was delicious w/fresh veggies from her garden and chardonnay on the deck!
42. Go to the Farmers' Market.
43. Become an Expert in Something. That Bay Area movement known as Hyphy? Sea monsters? Ghost Ships?
44. Pick Strawberries at Greenbluff. Wear big floppy hat.
45. Paint Pottery. I could use another mug or vase.
46. Spa Day. Get some friends together for a massage or facial.
47. One Experience Where I Completely Trust My Intuition. Feelings seem trustworthy to me at times but only after examining them. Intuition can sometimes be favourable though as it takes into account factors we are unconscious about. Act on intuition once and be okay with it.
48. Get Tarted Up and Go Dancing. Fake eyelashes, curly hair and even heels.
49. Start Christmas Shopping. It's just a good idea.
50. Coffee Date Over the Phone. So many of my closest friends don't live in the same state and it's time we've spent some quality time catching up over java.
51. Beg for Money with Street Signs. Dress up super nice and hold signs "Need money for college". --courtesy Erick.
52. Tag Something. (I was serious, Gpa--that Satin Krylon really is for my bar stools).
53. Go to Cat Tails. I've never been!
54. Wine tasting.
55. Draw on the Sidewalk with Colourful Chalk. Jeffer's birthday is coming up....
56. Amusement park!!!
57. Perfect My Free Throw.
58. Get Bartenders' License and Invent a Signature Cocktail. Kill Shot? Haha.
59. Cocktails and Crisco. Have a Sandra Lee day of cooking /baking, drinking & table-scaping!
60. Go to a Film Premiere. Or at least act like it on opening night-get dressed up, have dinner, the works.
61. Float the Spokane River. Courtesy of Forner I have impeccable instructions!

The Great Escape.

I have a confession: I love moving. Planning the intricacies involved and coordinating the logistics of uprooting and rearranging my life brings me great joy. In fact, Moving Day is second in anticipation only to Christmas in my world. The sight of duct tape reinforced boxes with permanent marker scrawled labels gets my heart pumping because it means that something new awaits. My moving crew (also known as my loving family and willing but grumbling friends) do not share in the festivities. I'm almost certain that my grandparents have the day my lease ends marked on their calendar. One to two months prior, I become consumed searching for new, larger and better apartments with more amenities and researching the surrounding area.

My lease this time around actually expired in April. I'm still put. At times it makes me a little uneasy. But I rather like my home sweet apartment and adore my charming neighborhood, Browne's Addition. I also find that my family has been rather clever about intensifying my bond to my current place as my grandparents recently came into town to make some renovations and additions to the decor. As my gpa was putting up floating shelves in my living area, he slyly brought up the idea of me signing a contract to stay put for a few months after all the effort that has gone into my most recent place. But no worries. I'm not going anywhere this summer. Did you see that hefty to do list I posted? Besides I love Spokane summers and am not quite ready to say goodbye to my wonderful friends here.

However, as I have been spring cleaning, purging things I don't adore enough to move with me to the next place, I can tell I am making mental notes of what will go and what will stay behind. I am more cognizant of the sunrises that I watch through my large living room window as I drink my coffee in the mornings--I will miss that. That's five minutes of peaceful bliss in my day.

And this time it isn't a move from the lower South Hill to Browne's in the works. It's out of our little city that I know so well (and love and loathe it for that reason) to a new location with many places to explore and new friends and memories to incorporate in my life.




I was reminded of my intense desire to live in a large city when Cristie and I spent a couple of days in Seattle a couple of weeks ago. We bravely took the Greyhound over departing at 1:25 in the morning and stayed overnight in the Bate's Motel. (Actually it turned out to be clean and safe despite the appearance of it belonging on a slasher set). Being only a couple blocks from downtown, it provided the perfect location for us to set out exploring unique local clothing boutiques and the larger chain stores as well. We were able to walk to the concert we went over for, Cobra Starship/3OH!3/Travis McCoy/& a new band to me, I Fight Dragons. So much to do and see! I scheduled drinks with a friend and accidentally and happily ran into an old buddy at Top Pot over coffee and donuts.


See the great thing about having fun everywhere I live and appreciating every day as an opportunity to create enchanting memories is that no matter where I am, I will find something entertaining to do. I still have to go on the chocolate run, float the river and complete my summer to do list here in Spokompton but then it will be my time to move on (hopefully and sadly before winter).

The bustling excitement of my beloved Portland is calling. I'll keep everyone updated.

The Discovery of A Local Haunt.

The vote took place around a high table. It was a Saturday night and the three women alternated between hushed tones reserved for sharing compassionate advice as they worked through scenarios and hypotheticals and frequent but seemingly intermittent bursts of laughter. It was a meeting where the friends would make an influential decision and a tradition would be established. As is often the case when discussing matters of great importance, there was gin. "All those in favor of this being our local hangout raise your hands". It was unanimous-Andy's, the bar on First Ave that serves sweet potato french fries, would be our neighborhood purlieu. (I'm going through a French phase).

There is enough empty space and sharp corners. Large canvases of abstract art are hung squarely on the walls and the music in the background is the kind that if identified, earns you cool points. By definition, this bar should be a hipster hot spot. But the young and painstakingly fashionable crowd must be ordering their Tom Collins elsewhere. Cristie jested that it was too far west to walk over from the Baby Bar-a small space overrun with big egos. Aside from the decor, the atmosphere is surprisingly laid-back as the regulars are too at ease to concern themselves with that pretentious mishegaas.

The atmosphere is probably the most important aspect to me. I tend to suggest, advocate, plead and cajole for the rowdy pub over a place that could be referred to as part of the scene or a lounge. I like a low-key, high volume place. When I lived on the lower South Hill my beloved choice to drag my friends to was the PI (Public House Inn). It offers baskets of popcorn on the worn wood tables and a Golden Tee in the corner. Large television screens are hung on the walls amidst beer garlands and flags. I've heard it referred to as a dive bar. But that's inaccurate. It isn't even dirty. The clientele just seems to prefer pitchers of beer over martinis. I rarely make it over to that side of town anymore because it is easier to go somewhere closer. Which illustrates another contributing factor to Andy's getting the vote-located on the fringe of downtown near the Browne's Addition end, it is in close proximity to everyone in the group's home sweet apartments.

The first night we loitered there as a group we spent hours entertaining one another with stories from our childhoods-of our sisters trying to flush us down the toilet, of cutting our grandmother's hair when we were supposed to be napping-of getting into general mischief whenever an adults back was turned. I laugh often but I will say that I have never had a sore throat from laughing so hard. From the beginning it was a place of enjoyment.

I think I can narrow the particulars necessary for a good haunt: atmosphere, proximity, memories and product (and really as long as a place has a quality gin and a few ambers on tap, that will do for me).

So this all leads me to wonder: Where are your local hangouts? What are the particulars that drew you to it? Did you formalize it with your friends or just happen to end up there every week?

-ako

An introduction and insight.

The purpose of this blog is to capture every day moments, immortalizing them and appreciating them so that I never fail to find the beauty and create meaning in my life. One of my greatest strengths is the ability to find wonder in all things. I understand that my perspective is how I view the world and that consequently, shapes my reality. Or as Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it "I know I'm not seeing things as they are, I'm seeing things as I am.”My audience is unclear to me. Perhaps I will write for my own enjoyment, piecing together words in a way that pleases me, attempting to express the ordinary in a way that shows it is quite extraordinary when taken advantage of. I suppose it is a diary of sorts then as it is focused on my life and my perspective as I experience these moments. I fear it will become narcissistic but hope it will detail aspects of the human condition to inspire others to realize their power to design and construct the life they want to live as they examine the ofttimes considered mundane experiences in life and see not bland days or hours but to find potential in everything.

*A note of explanation about the word habitué. The definition suggests that it includes a physical locale: One who frequents a particular place, especially a place offering a specific pleasurable activity. And while I have many familiar and nostalgic locations already known and new and remarkable nooks awaiting, it is meant more as a mindset. A constant approach of a person focused on enjoying and appreciating life.

It is when you look around and feel that is all is right in the world. Not globally or even locally but here, in this moment, you are truly happy. One of my favourite quotes that I live by is Kurt Vonnegut's "I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn't nice, I don't know what is.'" Those captivating moments where the dynamic is just right. Some of my most cherished memories that capture this magical feeling include late nights around the campfire and lengthy dinners with good company that extend well into the night...

It is long after the battle to cook the best smores when I shift around uncomfortably in my seat, repositioning my weight in order to assuage whatever part of my body is falling asleep or has gone numb. I adjust how close I am to the fire as my legs grow unbearably hot. I wrap the throw blanket closer around my body though because there is a chill in the early morning air. I have been sitting here for many hours listening to the familiar stories that everyone knows but loves to hear so they let the storyteller go on. I regale my companions with my own version of events as they boisterously interrupt and we playfully banter over how it really happened. A night full of unending laughter-you know the kind where you are doubled over with tears streaming down your face. Conversation often moves onto the meaning of life, which seems to be the preferred topic of choice after 2 am. It is then that I look up into the captivating night sky, so dark against the brilliant stars and fight the temptation to move out of fear of breaking the spell of the moment. I drink in what I am feeling and go through my senses. I can hear the soothing, crackling of the fire and comforting voices familiar as my own. I can simultaneously feel the heat from the fire and the chill of the night air. I can see the still lake water lit up by the moon. I can smell the fresh air far from home and I'm probably munching on some leftover chocolate. I make a conscious effort to catch the moment so I can recall in vivid detail the treasured memory at a later date.

Someone must rise first to go to bed but it never has been nor will it ever be me. I revel too much in the dynamic of our personalities, as they effortlessly demonstrate exactly why we have been so dear to each other over the years. This is a celebration and I would rather go without sleep. Those are the moments I live for.